Mary Ellen Pewo

May 22, 1952 - January 14, 2020
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Mary Ellen Green Pewo, 67, passed away on January 14, 2020. Mary was born May 22, 1952 to Bernice Soontay and Edgar “Butch” Toehay. She was raised by her grandparents Howard Allen and Alice (Domebo) Soontay at the Dah-tah-hay allotment in Boone, OK.
Mary attended Boone School through the 8th grade and graduated from Apache High School in 1970. She attended Draughon’s Business School in Tulsa, OK. She worked with various employers as a clerk at the Oklahoma City Police Department, administrative assistant at the Southern Plains Intertribal Center, was an administrative assistant and CHR at the Fort Sill Apache Tribe. She was an assistant and the Administrator for the Kiowa, Comanche, and Apache Inter-Tribal Land Use Committee.
She was a lifelong accomplished seamstress. At a young age, she made her own custom clothing. She loved outfitting her only granddaughter in custom clothing and tribal regalia. Sewing was her passion and she was known for her unique star quilts. Mary was an avid sports Grandma and loved watching Jasa play softball, Jeffrey play football and Braeden play baseball and basketball.
Mary and her late husband Dennis built their family home in 1981 in Apache, OK. She was a member of the Apache Tribe of Oklahoma and was also of Kiowa descent.
She is survived by her daughters and their spouses: Crystal and Jason Lightfoot and DeAnna Pewo and Brendan Jones. Her only granddaughter, Jasa Lightfoot and companion Dustin BigMountain. Her grandsons, Jeffrey “Boogie” Lightfoot and Braeden Jones; special niece Henrietta Redbone; her brother Jeffrey Toehay and his wife Candy; sister Joanna Redbone and her husband Sam; brother-in-law Donald Pewo and his wife Karen. Mary was very blessed with her siblings Kathleen Green, Geraldine Pike, Inez Bread, Lynn Key, Lyman Key, Opal Key Wright, Robert Key Jr, Rudolph Key, Lorraine Russell and McArthur Key, as well as her sisters Cheryl Redelk, Romelia Kassanavoid, Karen Kopaddy and Bertha Tahhahwah; Uncle Robert “Bobby” Soontay and his wife Inetta; and her beloved Aunts Nettie Soontay and Bertha Soontay Hogan. She dearly loved all of her cousins, nieces, nephews, grandchildren and greats.
She is preceded in death by: husband, Dennis Pewo and their infant twin son and daughter; her Father Eddie “Butch” Toehay and his wife Roberta Pewo Toehay; her Mother Bernice Soontay Key and her husband Bob Key of San Carlos, AZ; Uncle whom treated her as his own Howard “Tony” Soontay; her sisters Jolynne Toehay, Leann Parker Smith, and Nadine Kaulay; Aunts Roberta Attocknie, Cora Tiddark; and Uncle Richard Soontay
Visitation: 11 am - 8 pm, Thursday, January 16, 2020
9 am – 5 pm, Friday, January 17, 2020
Ray and Martha's Funeral Home, Anadarko, OK

Wake service: 7 pm – 11 pm, Friday, January 17, 2020
United Methodist Church of Apache, Apache, OK

Funeral service: 11 am Saturday, January 18, 2020
United Methodist Church of Apache, Apache, OK

Burial: 1:30 pm, Cache Creek KCA Cemetery, Apache, OK
Under the direction of Ray and Martha’s Funeral Home, Anadarko, OK

Service Information

Date: January 16, 2020
Time: 1:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Date: January 17, 2020
Time: 9:00 am - 5:00 pm
Date: January 18, 2020
Time: 1:30 pm

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Franklin E. Akoneto
Walters, OK
Heartfelt condolences to the family. God blessed so many of us who were privileged to know your precious Mother as our dear friend. She was very dedicated to her family and culture. Her perseverance exemplified her strong will and dependence on our Heavenly Father. We will continue to lift each of you in our prayers for the days ahead.
Toni S
Apache, OK
You will be missed, my one and only sister aunt
Ramona Cole
Plano, TX
Larry and I send our deepest condolences to the family.
Julia Kelly Pike-Stevens
San Carlos, AZ
My heart goes out to you all my dear family. She will truly be missed. RIP MARY.
Lois Tsatoke Parker
Anadarko, OK
My heartfelt prayers to your family.  I loved talking and terrorizing with both of your parents.  Heaven is bursting with love and laughter.  In my prayers, Crystal and Anna.  God blessed you with a large loving family. Love you, guys’
Joseph Aitson
Lawton, OK
Rest now Mary, your work here is done, Home at Last! Condolences to the Family.
Donnita Sovo
Sterling, OK
I thought alot of your mother I so sorry for your loss my prayers are with you and your family.
Darlene Wetsellibe
Anadarko, OK
I'm in shock!! Prayers for my sister's and grandkids.. . family...may God comfort guide the family.
Shirley Wells
Anadarko, OK
Sending my deepest sympathy. I know she's happy, and surrounded by all her loved ones once again. She's happy...
Larry &Charisse RedBine
Fort Cobb, OK
God bless your lived ones, you will be truly missed
Nona Tahpay
My condolences to family and friends
Ashlee Jacobsen
Perkins, OK
Prayers to your family aunt Crystal and Deanna. We are so glad we got to be in Mary's life. May God bless you guys in this time of need and may he comforts you with his Grace. Love you
Laura "Wah Wah" Tsonetokoy
Lawton, OK
Strong loveable woman and it'll continue to carry on with her daughters and grandchildren.  Much love to you all.
Cooper & Jewell Macktima
Phoenix, AZ
you will be missed greatly and we cherished every moment we had with you.  Love ?? you to the moon and back ?? we will miss you dearly ??
Lisa Soontay
Naples, FL
She always had a smile on her face and never had anything but kind words .... her grandchildren were her greatest joy ??
You will be missed
Rhonda Roulain
Apache, OK
My heartfelt condolences to Mary's fsmily and friends. She was a good woman.
Whitecloud, OK
Gonna miss my sewing buddy??Just loved getting together and talking/sharing our ideas.  But our subject would always come back to you kids , being beaming Mommas.  Love you girls, God Bless you and your families, she will always be smiling and happy??
Eileen W.
Apache, OK
Was so sorry to hear about this.  Deanna and Crystal you had a wonderful mother - she was such a friendly, happy person and always had a smile on her face.  I loved seeing her and my cousin Georgia out and about, they always made me laugh.  Now they are both happy and rejoicing in Heaven in their brand new bodies! Praise the Lord! God bless you, I will be praying for you and rest of the family.
N. Hogan Kinard
Jacksonville, FL
RIP Mary - you will be missed.  My condolences to the family.
Freda Gipp
Lawrence, KS
My deepest condolences. Praying for you all.
Robert and Annette Ware
Anadarko, OK
Our most sincere condolences. Our prayers and thoughts are with her family. She will be missed
Ann Koassechony
Apache, OK
Chrystal , Anna and families . I loved y’all’s mother so much. I know she with be greatly missed. I know she taught y’all well and always to look to GOD for everything. May GOD bless and comfort y’all like only he can. I love y’all, Auntie Ann
Eugene and Donna Boyiddle
Carnegie, OK
May God give you comfort during this time.
Joyce Vinyard
Anadarko,, OK
So sorry for your lost...I loved seeing Mary..we always laugh and enjoy our time together ...she is at peace pain..and she has a new body...most of all she is with her love,Dennis...God bless all.
Conrad and Misty Bointy Family
Our deepest condolences
Nancy C Nauni Alandzes
Lawton, OK
?? May you Rest In Peace my dear friend. You will truly be missed. Amen Nancy C Nauni Alandzes ??
Tonia carpitcher
Oklahoma City ok, OK
Sorry for the loss my condolences go out to the family
Gene and Mary Jo Lee
Apache, OK
Mary was a sweet, precious soul.  We know that she is now completely healed and with Dennis again. Her family was her life.  She loved Dennis, Crystal, DeAnna, Jasa, Jeffrey, and Braeden with all her heart.
When we visited with her she was always so proud to update us on how all of you were doing.
We hope you find comfort in knowing how much she loved all of you and the pride and joy you brought to her.  She and Dennis are watching over all of you together.
Linda minthorn
Elgin, OK
Missed funeral, i asked someone about when it was. She says it was this morning and it was already 2. Luv this lady,worked with her at southern plains.  She talked about her husband and kids.  Prayers
Cache, OK
I loved talking to Mary about her next sewing project. I would always run into her at Walmart at the Material Section.  She was always smiling and talking about what she has plan to do . Very special person and her kindness and smile.
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