Ella Rose Jay

March 13, 1945 - June 15, 2018
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Ella Rose Jay passed away on June 15, 2018 at her home in Ft. Cobb, Oklahoma with her loving family by her side. Ella Rose was born March 13, 1945 in Lawton, Oklahoma to Matthew and Clara Silverhorn Tofpi.

Ella Rose attended school in Carnegie graduating with the Class of 1963. She married Bobby Jay March 22, 1963 in Anadarko, Oklahoma. Ella Rose was a member of the Kiowa Tribe of Oklahoma and Cedar Creek United Methodist Church in Carnegie, Oklahoma. She worked as a Headstart Teacher for Washita Valley Headstart for many years.

Ella Rose is survived by four daughters:
Cheryl Jay and companion Vincent Shomo of Ft. Cobb, Oklahoma
Claudine Yvonne Moran and husband Monte of Bixby, Oklahoma
Barbara Lei Tana Jay Tovar of Wichita Falls, Texas
Donis Michele Tiger and husband Brian of Lawton, Oklahoma

Eleven Grandchildren:
Bobbie Moran & companion Johnny Mahsetky, of Mustang, Oklahoma, Amber Jay of Ft. Cobb, Oklahoma, Skye Jay of Killeen, Texas, Chalemah Jay of Ft. Cobb, Oklahoma, Maggie Jones of Japan, Aimee Wetselline & companion Andrew LookingGlass of Ft. Cobb, Ok., Alanis Jones of Wichita Falls, Texas, Kylei Jay of Lawton, Ok., Keilee Jay of Lawton, Ok., Ashley Mousseaux of Killeen, Texas and her only Grandson, Nigel Jay of Ft. Cobb, Oklahoma.

Great Grandchildren: Parker Mahsetky, Jaylen Swift, Kaleb Anquoe, Aubrey Anquoe, Elijah Whitaker,
Alexis Getlin, Ashtyn Getlin, John Talhoc Jr., Avalon Thompson, Hendrix Wetselline Lookinglass,
Kai'Manie Salas.

Brothers: Donald Tofpi & wife Evelyn, Carnegie, Ok.,
James Tofpi & wife Lavonne of Chickasha, Ok.
Jerry Silverhorn & wife Angela of Carnegie, Ok.

Sisters: Vickie Boettger & husband William Sr., of Carnegie, Oklahoma
Judy Nelson of Anadarko Ok.
Sherry Motah of Carnegie, Ok.

She is also survived by her furry family member, Brutus Nesahkluah and her grand dogs, Carly and Cooper Moran.

She was preceded in death by her husband, Bobby Jay, her parents, two brothers Larry Tofpi and Terry Silverhorn, One sister Phyllis Daniels. Her grandparents James Silverhorn, & Clara Rose Silverhorn and paternal grandparents, Carl Tofpi and Jenny Ella Tofpi.

Service Information

Date: June 19, 2018
Time: 1:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Date: June 20, 2018
Time: 9:00 am - 7:00 pm
Date: June 21, 2018
Time: 11:00 am

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Marlene Silverhorn Catterson
Crawfordsville,, IN
My condolences to the family, Ella was a Good Woman, not many like her.  She was a great sister/cousin and I'll truly miss her.  Always had good thing's to say whenever I was able to make it home.  Kindergarten teacher to my youngest at Fort Cobb, my baby is 32 now.  R.I.P.
Edward & Beverly Adkins Whitworth
Carnegie, OK
Prayers for the family!
Ft.Cobb, OK
My deepest condolences to Family and prayers to all
God bless you all
Brittany Lane
Tokyo, Japan, OK
My auntie was one of the most supportive people when I joined the Air Force. I wish I could be home to be with my dear family but I know she’s happy to finally not suffer anymore. She was a great auntie to me and I’m thankful to God for having her in my life.
Jackie Big Bow
Mtn. View, OK
Praying for the family, Ella was a very kind and beautiful person.
Coleen Cunningham
Gracemont, OK
Cheryl ? surrounding you and your family in my prayers.
Beverly Hatfield
Anadarko, OK
My thought and prayers go out to everyone of you. I ask in Jesus name you find strength and comfort during this time. Ella was a kind lady. Going to miss her smile.
Glenda Williams
Anadarko, OK
My deepest condolences to the Jay family...May the Lord wrap his arms with comfort and peace at this time.
Delbert Morton
Anadarko, OK
Sorry for lost may she rest in peace now with bobby
Lenny Edmonds
Mountain View, OK
May the good Lord comfort the Jay family & Tofpi family during this time of loss, prayers for you all.
Jewel Tsatoke
Meers, OK
Prayers for the Jay & Tofpi family and her daughters.  May God bless you with peace and comfort in your hearts for the days to come and all the days after.
Stephanie J. Flores ‘Miller
Anadarko, OK
My condolences to the family and prayers for Bobby Jay!!! Prayers ???? I’m Walter Jay ‘ Nesahkluah granddaughter
Jacqueline and Jaxson Tsonetokoy
Carnegie, OK
Condolences to your families. May the Creator comfort you with the wonderful memories of her. Prayers .
Lahoma Zotigh
Carnegie, OK
May the good Lord bless your family with his peace, love and grace during your time of sorrow.....blessings ?
LaHoma Primus
Colorado Springs, CO
You did a lot of wonderful things while you were here that I will always look up to. You will be missed. I love you always Auntie. Rest peacefully now. May the Lord continue with the family and give all comfort.
sharon keechi Ahpeahtone
okc, okla, OK
So very sorry, just saw, please accept my belated sympathy, love, prayers and blessings to u all, Vickie, Judy, Donnie & Evelyn tofpi, and all other family members I didn't mention. May God ease ur pain and give u comfort in ur time of loss.
Kathy Asetamy
Pine Ridge, SD
Was so very sad to hear she left but I know she is happy & healthy now and is with Bob.  She is a beautiful soul.
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